Yeah, but see, it isn't so serious, at all. Because we've got six libraries, so I'm not leaving the job - just my workplace, which is currently one of the libraries.
And... yeah. I am being submissive, and shouldering a lot of the responsibility for fixing the problem. Because, clearly, my co-worker won't address the issue directly. My boss can't fix it, since he's extremely uncomfortable dealing with actual people with actual emotions (would you believe he started talking about our technical skills as the reason for our current problems? We flat-out told him that it's not technical skills that are lacking, here. It's a social issue.).
But mostly, because I've learned to read myself, and I've learned that there are things I can accept and there are things I can't accept - and I need to do something pro-active about the stuff that's bothering me. Because nobody else is going to! Which, you know, is a good life-lesson to learn, but tough as hell to get through. And which I really, really wish my strangely passive-aggressive coworker had learned when she was my age. So... yeah. I'm doing it because I'm not going to stand for that kind of crap again, and I needed to make everyone aware of what I will and won't accept.
Also? I know my coworkers and bosses well enough by now that being confrontational is always counterproductive - and mostly lands me in hot water. It's harder to argue against a "well, this is how I feel"-statement. :-)
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Date: 2009-02-19 08:03 pm (UTC)And... yeah. I am being submissive, and shouldering a lot of the responsibility for fixing the problem. Because, clearly, my co-worker won't address the issue directly. My boss can't fix it, since he's extremely uncomfortable dealing with actual people with actual emotions (would you believe he started talking about our technical skills as the reason for our current problems? We flat-out told him that it's not technical skills that are lacking, here. It's a social issue.).
But mostly, because I've learned to read myself, and I've learned that there are things I can accept and there are things I can't accept - and I need to do something pro-active about the stuff that's bothering me. Because nobody else is going to! Which, you know, is a good life-lesson to learn, but tough as hell to get through. And which I really, really wish my strangely passive-aggressive coworker had learned when she was my age. So... yeah. I'm doing it because I'm not going to stand for that kind of crap again, and I needed to make everyone aware of what I will and won't accept.
Also? I know my coworkers and bosses well enough by now that being confrontational is always counterproductive - and mostly lands me in hot water. It's harder to argue against a "well, this is how I feel"-statement. :-)